Is a relationship affecting the way you feel?
What are relationships?
A relationship is a bond between two people or more. Relationships cover a wide range of people including:
- work colleagues
- sexual relationships
- people you are living together and if you are married.
How do relationships affect you?
Good relationships can make our lives feel much happier. Healthy relationships are very important when we want to be healthy. Evidence has found that healthy relationships relate strongly to people’s health and wellbeing. However most relationships can go through difficult patches and if you have fallen out with someone, you might need to find some middle ground to get back on track.
Relationship difficulties can produce or bring up feelings that may be from the past – hurt, anger, hopelessness, worthlessness etc.. This can be quite frightening and may make you irritable or withdrawn.
- You may be thinking about starting a sexual relationship or feel under pressure to do so. Click here to find out more about this from the get it on website. Remember it’s your choice. It’s ok to say ‘No’ if you do not feel ready.
What may affect a relationship?
Many things can affect relationships – money problems, family problems, exam/work pressures, having different points of view, substance misuse etc.. These can all put a strain on relationships, whether you are in a couple, in a shared house or still at home.
- However, relationships can be abusive, and there are various places you can go to get advice and information. (see contacts below)
Sometimes relationships struggle because of different expectations – For example, you may expect your friend to be there for you when you are upset but they may not have noticed your upset and you may have to ask clearly for support.
Family relationships can become strained (as you are developing into an adult and finding your own identity) and you may find that you are having arguments with your mum/dad or brother or sister. This may be because both you and your parent(s) or family members are adjusting to you growing up. It can take several years for parents and teens to adjust to this, though. It may be that those around you don’t know how to start talking to you. In the meantime, try to talk with your parents and family, as best you can.
This could be difficult for you – as if they just don’t see your point of view and never will. But talking to them about what will make you happy can help you gain more respect from your parents, and you may be able to reach an agreement that makes everyone happy. For example, if you are willing to help in the house in order to stay out an hour later, both you and your parents may get what you want.
Keep in mind, too, that your parents were teens once and that most parents can relate to what you’re going through.
What can help with relationships?
If you are experiencing a hard time in one relationship try to think of more positive ones you have had to remind yourself that not all relationships are bad ones. Don’t isolate yourself and try to talk to people around you.