Has someone you love died?
When someone you love dies it is known as a bereavement and is very upsetting. When you are young, it may be very hard to manage your feelings:
- If everyone around you is struggling with their own grief
- If you feel like none of your friends know how hard it is
Remember there is no right or wrong way of feeling after someone you love dies and your feelings are unique to you. Nobody will experience bereavement in the same way. This may be the first time in your life that you have been bereaved. The distress it causes may leave you feeling a whole range of emotions such as feeling numb and empty, depressed, anxious and frightened. Especially if it is one of your parents where you may feel all these and alot of anger.
It is very normal to feel angry at the injustice that this person has died. It is just unfair. You may ask yourself ”Why should this happen to me?” and feel annoyed at the person that has died. Again this is normal and not something else to worry about.
When we have been bereaved, a common emotion is feeling guilty. This maybe because of things said or not said before the person died or thinking ”if only’ things had been different”. These thoughts can be on your mind for a long time afterwards but talking to a friend or family member will help you.
Depression is more than simply feeling unhappy or fed up for a few days. Its quite normal to go through periods of feeling abit low and flat when we have been bereaved, but when you’re depressed you feel persistantly sad for weeks or months, rather than just a few day. If you think you have or are becoming depressed, then speak to your GP about what’s treatment is available. You could also look at the links below or look at the depression section of this website.
If you have tried to all these things and you don’t feel any better, you must speak to your GP, they will be able to talk to you about any treatments that could help.
If you are having suicidal thoughts you must speak to someone immediately. If you are thinking of ending your life you must:
- Contact your GP immediately, if the GP surgery is closed there will be a telephone message or your call will be diverted to the GP out of hours service.
- Attend your local Accident and Emergency department
- Phone the Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90
- If you have already created a ‘keep safe plan’ please refer to this plan of who you feel is best to contact.